Valentine’s Day Dating Ideas For Home Buddies

If you or your lover or both of you are the type of person who want to stay at home and be a home buddy, then on Valentine’s Day it would be a different mood and set-up.

Heart’s Day as some would call it is one of the most sought after event or occasion especially for those who are in a relationship or married. But for home buddies, there are Valentine’s Day dating ideas which can make a couple enjoy their time together without having the fuss and hassle of dating outside.

To give you an idea on how to spend this special occasion, read on the following Valentine’s Day dating ideas for home buddies:

• Stargazing

Get a cozy blanket, a huge bench that will fit both of you and some munchies to eat on while you are going out there on the backyard. Watch the stars as they start to twinkle their lights on you. You can even play a game of guessing the different constellations that appear on the sky. If not simply cuddle and talk about your relationship, romantic things and other stuff. Be sure not to talk about money and problems. These are a no-no! You do not want to ruin your Valentine’s date mood.

• Play Poker

If both of you know how to play cards, especially poker, then go and pay a poker game. You can start betting using a nickel or a dollar perhaps. However, if you want to be more romantic about it and add some twist to a betting game, why not have the loser strip off a piece of what he or she wearing until such time one of you has nothing to strip off (who by the way is the ultimate loser of the game).

• Movie Night

Grab a copy of a newly released DVD of a horror flick or maybe a romantic movie perhaps. Cook some munchies to eat while watching the movie. Do not forget to prepare the beverages too. To make it more romantic, switch off the lights and simply cuddle all the way till the movie ends.

• Play A Board Game

What about competing against each other on a board game? This will definitely be a sure hit especially to let time pass by and of course having fun as well. You can choose to play chess, scrabble, snakes and ladder, dominos, checkers, monopoly, mah-jong and many more. If you want to play every bit of board game you got at home, sure you can!

The best part of having your Valentine’s Day spent at home is that you are spending quality time together at the comforts of your home without having to spend much money on it. The four mentioned Valentine’s Day dating ideas for home buddies would be a sure hit for those who want to spend this special day at home with the love of their lives. Who says being at home is boring? Na, there are still a lot of ways to spend this coveted day with your loved one at home. All it takes is a little bit of creativity and initiative.

Boys Lives at Risk – Is the Buddy System the Answer?

Another headline, another unfolding tragedy for parents of a teenage boy caught in a mesh that kills more young men than are killed in wars. Take any classroom picture in which the boys are equal in number to the girls; the chances of the boys living long enough to pick up their pension are far lower than it is for the young women.

Statistically boys are more likely to fall victim to sexual predators than are girls. Adding to the high risk gauntlet that nature obliges them to navigate, boys from the age of ten become over confident risk-takers. Many are drawn to dangerous pursuits, blithely unaware of their vulnerability, and to a justice system that is weighed against them.

In Spain, gaoled without bail on the flimsiest of evidence, British teenager Stefan Beal is charged with the rape of an 80-year old gypsy female. The attack is alleged to have taken place after Stefan became blindingly drunk at a fiesta near his home village close to Granada. An appeal is pending. The evidence still being collected suggests he is the victim of a ‘compensation’ sting set up by two male relatives of the woman, who have since disappeared.

The Named and Shamed Innocents

In England, 19-year old Ed Stobart is named and shamed with the rape of a 15-year old girl. Several beatings later, he still carries the social stigma. Yet the trial collapsed when the judge dismissed proceedings, describing the evidence against the teenager as deeply flawed.

The alleged victim was so drunk she could not remember anything at all about the incident. There was no evidence of sexual assault, and there was mobile phone footage of her totally inebriated and falling over. The following day both youngsters spent a relaxed social time together, even exchanging innocent texts. It was only later she decided she had been ‘raped.’

Such injustices are commonplace and equal in number to young men killed in high risk sports pursuits, traffic accidents, and suicide. Is there a solution?

The Buddy System

The Buddy System was introduced by American military regulations during the Korean War; in certain conditions it is mandatory. It has proved to be one of the U.S Armed Forces greatest success stories.

The Buddy System is based on the principle that many accidents, incidents and casualties could have been avoided had the victim had a buddy looking after him or her. In the U.S. Army they are called ‘battle buddies. Since its introduction tens of thousands of lives have been saved and injuries avoided by this superb survival system. Such has been its success that Americans in civilian life have embraced the buddy system too.

Parents and friends of teenagers are quick to see the advantages; urging their children to team up with a close friend to look out for each other. Both boys and girls are at their most vulnerable when driving, partying, or following high risk sports.

The Life Saving Buddy System

Father of two Dermot M says, “I have 24-year old sons who mean the world to me and I dread ‘the telephone call’. I hope both of them have a guardian angel. More pragmatically I encourage them to team up with a close friend and to undertake to look out for each other in all circumstances.”

Young adults finding their adult feet will go through the social rituals of partying, drinking to excess, driving and taking part in sports, some of which are high risk. Inevitably there will be occasions when circumstances combine to put them under threat. “Essentially,” Dermot says, “If you are partying, delegate a buddy and vow to look out for each other. It will also teach young people the importance of showing personal responsibility towards others.”

“If a youthful companion is depressed and vulnerable; foolishly rising to a challenge or drinking too much; perhaps unaware of a threat posed by others, do step in and act as a good buddy should. If a friend is drunk never ever allow him or her to go home on their own.”

Every day newspapers carry stories of teenagers caught up in situations like those of Stefan Beal and Ed Stobart. Both would have been avoided had they ‘signed up’ to the buddy system. It reduces risk, it saves lives, encourages responsibility, and it builds faith in others. Never has the support system been more important than it is today when teenagers’ lives are being so senselessly shortened. ©